This article's content is too cliche about the cringe behaviour of people whom we come across every single day in our routine. It's cliche since, "how much content is too much content to suffice the cringing attitude of few in society".
So here comes my experience.
Then comes the second cringe of the day when I'm entering my workspace where the security (watchman) asks what's your husband and how much is he getting paid? Like seriously, is it just my bad day or the people really became weird. Alright... tolerated this question too and went further to settle at my desk for work. Then my mobile beeps. The notification says text from a friend. Since it's too long, we have spoken to each other, I have texted her for a short conversation wherein she asks what's up with life? When I said as usual continuing with the same job, she is asking "it's already been a year, aren't you bored of that work? aren't you joining somewhere better in the city side for a better salary?". Oh, holy shit. Insecurity prompted much.
After several attacks, sat with my colleagues (friends at the workspace) for breakfast wherein one of the friends telling that even she had the worst day since she missed her bus. And there comes the reason for missing it...one of her neighbours stopped her when she is rushing to catch her bus. That neighbour fondly stopped to ask where she (my friend) is working, permanent or temporary/ how much is her salary. I felt like we both fell in some loop (the same questions in repeat mode). Just one half of a day, people are trying hard to ruin it for another.
Of course yeah, everyone would have faced it in one way or another. But why? Are those strangers really caring enough for our better life? Are they much more worried about our lives, than us? This made me kindle up all the insecurity (CRINGE) questions so far I faced such as:
Why are you always too thin (body shaming)
Aren't your parents feeding enough?
Being a girl, why did you study law, didn't you get any other better courses?
Look at your skin tone, why are you least concerned about it?
Why you are plaiting your hair?, why you look too old for your age?, why can't you groom yourself better?
Why are you sitting at home after studying for many years (since I pass out my PG during COVID, and didn't get a job for about a year) & that pitiful look of people asking these questions is very provoking.
Why didn't you do your PhD? Why aren't you practising as an advocate in court? Why can't you go for better corporate jobs?
How much did your parents give to your inlaws for getting you married?
Your in-laws seem to be nice, but are they really good, are they taking good care of you(from dearest relative) [tone of that question sounded like "how come are they(inlaws)being nice, by this time, some quarrel should have happened, tell me what's it!?"]
It's been half a year since you got married, when are you going to say the good news?
And the list of those questions continues.Such as this, everyone should have faced certain types of questions from certain people. Though these questions of strangers are, to some extent manageable with giving approximate answers and negligible enough to avoid it and move on. At certain times, the intensity of those questions gives us insecurity which remain as immeasurable pain. Or it just annoys us. Initially, I thought these questions are from adults who are illiterate. Later understood that education doesn't have any role to play in it, even the equal generation well-educated cringes also exist.
We are doing great with, what we have and what we are doing. Let's not torture ourselves via these cringes and their nonsensical questions. Judging/bullying others, bitching about it, ragging for being different and cringing everywhere possible are the few most unwelcomed features. Nobody needs it. Everyone can't be hundred percent. Even I might have bitched about someone,but accepting and unlearning is all that matters. Inculcating the quality of accepting everyone in their own way, not showing off the things that somebody is blessed with (since everyone's situation and opportunities are not the same) and simply minding one's own job, could help everyone around. Let's stop normalising such CRINGE QUESTIONS OF THE CRINGEST PEOPLE. Let's learn about respecting the boundaries of others and making the place better for everyone's cheerful existence.
CHEERS EVERYONE, BEWARE OF CRINGES, LET'S VOICE AGAINST THAT BEHAVIOUR. LET'S LIVE & TOO LEAVE OTHERS TO LIVE.
(PS: Thanks to the friend who inspired me to write it. For the longest time, thinking to keep this blog space active. Thankfully it's happening through her.)
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